Introspection for self development


When was the last time you talked to yourself? Yes, I am asking about talking to yourself. Seems strange right? But trust me you can talk to yourself very often. There is no chance of getting a wrong answer or a lie when you will communicate with the best & the most important person in your life than anyone else on the planet.

You may be very much talkative, but you may often ignore to communicate with yourself. Many readers still will be confused on the idea of ‘Self Talk’. See to be very true & honest; you have only one life that you live mostly as per others instructions & commands, right? It’s good to obey good things. But at one point you have to prove your own individual identity apart from your family or relatives to the external world. Yes, you can’t relax by ignoring this point. Surely you can take help of someone to a certain extent in life to get life back on the right track.

Friends, you need to sit and think deeply on this topic. You take ‘yourselves’ very lightly & probably give the last preference in almost anything. So turn your focus from the world to yourself right now. Have a look into the SWOT of your own life. What are the things you are expert in, what are the things you are weak at? What scares you or what opportunities await you? First find this out. In fact these are the most important questions in everybody’s life which often are neglected. So make a list of your SWOT. Discuss it with an expert. You will certainly receive the life’s best advice. I tried it way back. Life has many things to offer you so don’t be satisfied on the things it gives you, try to acquire the things you deserve. This is nothing but success. What you desire, you get…you become satisfied & happy. But instead of having many things, you see people often complain about something to someone in life. I am not discussing any new topic right now but you must know all this if you want to develop your own personality.

Strength can be anything that is your passion & you are good at. Be engaged in to doing it very often so that you achieve mastery in that skill. People will always respect a person who is an expert in any field, remember this. So whatever you plan to do, plan it well. So once you prepare a list of all the goodies in life you go through it again, polish the existing skills to the next levels. Similarly identify your weaknesses, list them down, work on them, reduce them & slowly come out of them easily. Reducing weaknesses you actually help yourself to build your strengths to a great extent. Also remember that more strengths more opportunities & less weaknesses less threats in life. So I hope now you agree that Introspection is an important key to success and satisfaction in our lives.

- Mr. Amul S. Tamboli


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